Ezinyangeni ezine ezandulele eTokyo, ngangiya kulelo hhotela cishe zonke izinsuku, ngihlala kusukela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku, kodwa ngingalali.Manje njengoba ngenza idokhumentari mayelana nehhotela, umnikazi unginikeze ikamelo langasese ukuze ngikwazi ukuzwa umoya wehhotela wothando lwangempela ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezizayo. Phakathi nezinsuku ezimbalwa, ngajwayela ukuhlebeza, ukububula ngezikhathi ezithile. nokubiza umbhede, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kwakungamangalisi ukubona owesifazane ehamba nendoda ebophe inja.
Wake wacabanga ukuboshwa noma ukubopha umlingani wakho ekamelweni?I-BDSM—ehlanganisa ukugqilazwa, isiyalo, ukubusa nokuzithoba, kanye ne-sadomasochism—iye yanda ekudumeni phakathi neminyaka edlule.Indlela edumile yobugqila i-shibari, eyaziwa nangokuthi yi-Japanese rope bondage.
UShibari uyisenzo somoya.
Naphezu kwenkolelo evamile, i-zari ayiwona umkhuba ongokomoya eJapane.Lokhu kunjalo kulabo abajabulela ezinye izinhlobo ze-kink, njengokugqilazwa kwesikhumba, ukushaywa, imidlalo yokuhlukumeza, ukubusa nokuzithoba, nokuningi.Intambo yaseJapan ingaba imidlalo yocansi egangile, ukuzithiba ezweni elinesiphithiphithi, noma yonke into ephakathi.”
I-Shibari kumele ibe yinkimbinkimbi futhi ibe nzima.
Nakuba kungase kube inkimbinkimbi, akudingekile ukuba kube njalo.Akudingeki ukuthi ufunde futhi ufunde amafomu ayinkimbinkimbi okungenzeka angabi nempilo kuwe noma emzimbeni womlingani wakho.Ezinye izibopho eziyisisekelo, noma i-corset elula, zijabulisa.Ekupheleni kosuku, kumayelana nokuzijabulisa okwabiwe kanye nezinkanuko, hhayi ukwesabisa noma amadlingozi.
UShibari umayelana nokujabula.
Uma ubheka phezulu, i-shibari ingase ibonakale igxile enjabulweni yobulili kuphela, kodwa kwakungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi.Ngokusho kukathisha ofundisa ngocansi oqinisekisiwe uDenis Graveris, abantu abahlukene banezisusa ezihlukene zokuzibandakanya kulobu bugqila.Uphawula ukuthi abantu bavame ukuzwa ukuqwashisa ngomzimba ngesikhathi nangemva kwe-shibari, kodwa akuwona wonke okuhlangenwe nakho okudingeka afake ukukhuthazwa kocansi.Nokho, ngenxa yokwethemba okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, usazothola okuthile okuseduze futhi uzizwe usondelene kakhulu nomunye umuntu.
AmaShibari anodlame.
Ubuhlungu bungaba isici se-shibari, kodwa akufanele buzizwe njengokuhlukunyezwa, futhi akufanele bube mnandi, kusho uGraveris.Lokhu kungenxa yokuzijabulisa kwakho, hhayi ukuhlupheka kwakho.Ukwethembana kungenye into ebalulekile ekudlaleni i-“shibari” phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho.
Izinzuzo ze-chai bari
1. Kuthuthukisa ukusondelana.
Imfihlo yobugqila nokuzijabulisa kobugqila abantu abaningi abangakhulumi ngakho ukuthi kudinga ukuxhumana okuseduze kanye nokushintshana kwezinzwa njalo.
2. Kulula ukuzivumelanisa nezimo, ukuzivumelanisa nezimo okungenamkhawulo.
Njengezinto eziningi ekuphileni, ayikho indlela yokulinganisa yonke into ye-shibari.Ivumelana nezimo ngokungenamkhawulo, futhi ungakwazi ukuyilungisa futhi uyishintshe ukuze ivumelane nazo zonke izinhlobo zomzimba, amaleveli okufaneleka, namaleveli okuzizwisa.Awudingi ukuguquguquka ukuze ujabulele i-shibari, udinga nje ukucacisa ukuthi yini esebenzayo nengasebenzi.
3. Ingakunikeza umthamo onempilo wama-endorphin.
NgokukaGrevelis, lapho unquma ukwamukela isipiliyoni, umzimba wakho ukuvuza ngamahomoni okuzizwa ejabule njenge-endorphin, i-serotonin, ne-dopamine.Uma usuwazi kahle lawa masu, ungaphusha umzimba wakho ufinyelele emkhawulweni uze unikeze lezi zinzuzo.
Ukuhlola i-shibari kuyindlela enhle yokukusondeza wena nozakwenu.Futhi kuyindlela enhle yokwazi umzimba wakho kangcono, okuzogcina kukushiye uzizwa unamandla.Nokho, kubalulekile ukwenza ucwaningo lwakho ngaphambi kokwenza kanjalo.
Futhi, ungazami ukulingisa izimo ezidutshulwa ochwepheshe ngaphandle kokuthatha izinyathelo zokuphepha ezifanele.Impela: hlala ugcine umdlalo wakho uphephile futhi ungokuzithandela ngokuphelele.
Isikhathi sokuthumela: Aug-04-2023
