Ezinyangeni ezine ezedlule eTokyo, ngaya kuleyo hhotela cishe nsuku zonke, ngihlale ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku, kodwa hhayi ukuhlala ubusuku bonke. Manje njengoba ngenza idokhumenti ngehhotela, umnikazi unginike igumbi langasese ukuze ngithole indawo yangempela yothando lwehhotela ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezizayo. Futhi ukushaya kombhede, futhi kwesinye isikhathi bekungamangazi ukubona owesifazane ehambahamba nendoda egqoke inja.
Wake wahlushwa yini mayelana nokuboshwa noma ukubopha umlingani wakho egumbini lokulala? I-BDSM-ehlanganisa ubugqila, isiyalo, ukubusa kanye nokuhambisa, kanye ne-sadomasochism - kukhule ngokuthandwa ngokuhamba kweminyaka. Uhlobo oludumile lokugqilazwa yiShibari, elaziwa nangokuthi isigqila sezintambo saseJapan.
UShibari uyisenzo esingokomoya.
Naphezu kwenkolelo evamile, uZari akuwona umkhuba ngokomoya eJapan. Lokhu kunjalo kwalabo abajabulela ezinye izinhlobo ze-Kink, njengokugqilazwa kwesikhumba, ukushaya imidlalo, imidlalo yokuhlukunyezwa, ukubuswa nokuthumela, nokuningi. Intambo yaseJapan ingaba yimidlalo yobulili obungenabuphiko, nokuthula ezweni lesiphithiphithi, noma konke okuphakathi. "
I-Shibari kumele ibe yinkimbinkimbi futhi ibe nzima.
Ngenkathi kungahle kube nzima, akufanele kube yikho. Akudingeki ufunde futhi ufunde amafomu ama-tata angenzeka ngisho nakuwe noma umzimba womlingani wakho. Amanye amathayi ayisisekelo, noma i-corset elula, kumnandi. Ekupheleni kosuku, kumayelana nobumnandi obabiwe nobuningi, hhayi ukwesabisa noma ukujabulisa.
I-Shibari imayelana nokujabula.
Ngaphezulu, uShibari angabonakala sengathi agxile kakhulu ekujabuleni kwezocansi, kodwa lokho akuhlali njalo. Ngokusho kwe-Denifie Denicator Denis Generis, abantu abehlukene banezisusa ezihlukile zokuzibandakanya kulobu bugqila. Uphawula ukuthi abantu bavame ukubhekana nokuqwashisa ngomzimba ngesikhathi nangemva kokuhlangenwe nakho, kepha akuzona konke okuhlangenwe nakho okudinga ukufaka ukukhuthaza ngokocansi. Kodwa-ke, ngenxa yokwethenjwa kokuhlangenwe nakho, usazozwa okuthile okusondele futhi uzizwe usondele komunye umuntu.
UShibari unodlame.
Ubuhlungu bungaba yinto yeShibari, kepha akufanele bazizwe njengokuhlushwa, futhi akufanele kube okungathandeki, kusho i-Graveris. Lokhu kungenxa yokuzijabulisa kwakho, hhayi ngokuhlupheka kwakho. Ukwethembana kungenye into ebalulekile ekudlaleni "shibari" phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho.
Izinzuzo ze-Chai Bari
1. Kukhuthaza ukusondelana.
Imfihlo yokugqilazwa nobugqila obumnandi abaningi abantu abangakhulumi ngabo ukuthi kudinga ukuxhumana okusondelene nokushintshana kwenzwa njalo.
2. Kulula ukuzivumelanisa nezimo eziguqukayo ezingenamkhawulo.
Njengasenazo izinto eziningi empilweni, abukho usayizi owodwa olingana - yonke indlela eya eShibari. Kuyashintshwa ngokujulile, futhi ungakwazi ukujwayela futhi ulishintshe ukuze uvumelane nazo zonke izinhlobo zomzimba, amazinga wokuqina, kanye namazinga okuhlangenwe nakho. Awudingi ukuba nezimo ukuze ujabulele iShibari, udinga nje ukucacisa ngalokho okusebenzayo nokuthi yini engenzi.
3. Kungakunika umthamo onempilo wama-endorphins.
Ngokusho kukaGrevelis, lapho uthatha isinqumo sokumukela isipiliyoni, umzimba wakho uvuza wena ngama-hormone amahle anjenge-endorphins, e-serotonin ne-dopamine. Uma usuwazi kahle lezi zinqubo, ungacindezela umzimba wakho kuze kube umkhawulo kuze kube yilapho kukunikeza lezi zinzuzo.
Ukuhlola iShiburi kuyindlela enhle yokukulethela wena nomlingani wakho eduze. Kuyindlela enhle yokwazi umzimba kangcono, okuzokushiya ekugcineni uzizwe amandla. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukwenza ucwaningo lwakho ngaphambi kokwenza njalo.
Futhi, ungazami ukulingisa lezi zinto ezishutshekiswa yizinzuzo ngaphandle kokuthatha izinyathelo zokuphepha ezifanele. Vele: Gcina umdlalo wakho uphephile futhi ngokuzithandela.
Isikhathi sePosi: Aug-04-2023
